It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is often regarded to be. It’s a neurotic self-defense behavior that develops to protect a person’s sense of self-worth.

You see, procrastinators tend to be people who have, for whatever reason, developed to perceive an unusually strong association between their performance and their value as a person. This makes failure or criticism disproportionately painful, which leads naturally to hesitancy when it comes to the prospect of doing anything that reflects their ability — which is pretty much everything.

But in real life, you can’t avoid doing things. We have to earn a living, do our taxes, have difficult conversations sometimes. Human life requires confronting uncertainty and risk, so pressure mounts. Procrastination gives a person a temporary hit of relief from this pressure of “having to do” things, which is a self-rewarding behavior. So it continues and becomes the normal way to respond to these pressures.

Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them. Their older siblings may have been high achievers, leaving big shoes to fill, or their parents may have had neurotic and inhuman expectations of their own, or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers.

brain-food:

I was going through some of my thumb drives that i have collecting in a shoebox and found more of my London street shots. I actually have no memories attached to these captures, I think i just lifted up my camera and shot something while i was looking around elsewhere in awe. 

(via off-centre)

原來 我那麼輕易地相信你的話語
才是真正的瘋子,真正的白痴。

太容易找到依賴,卻不容易將手放開。所以要學會堅持獨立,學會避開 打開心懷 可能會帶來的傷害。

cjwho:

Bryan Berg, a Cardstacker

Bryan Berg was introduced to card-stacking by his grandfather at the age of 8. He is a self-taught artist in all of the techniques he uses today. Berg’s freestanding card structures are based on a grid-like arrangement, which Berg tested in a structural engineering lab to support 660 lbs per square foot―using no tape, no glue, no folding, and no tricks.

(via designed-for-life)

But you’re falling in lovewith the ideaof someone who loves you despite knowingyou’re utterly insane.

But you’re falling in love
with the idea
of someone who loves you despite knowing
you’re utterly insane.

(Source: justibee, via forever-and-alwayss)

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